F=ma

I was daydreaming idly the other day, as I tend to do, about force.

Namely, I wonder what force I am able to exert solely from my bicep? If I were arm-less, save for my bicep, with what force could I strike someone across the arse?

Probably, not a lot.

Consider then, if I now add my forearm. By allowing my forearm to go limp, and only moving my bicep, I am able to generate an order of magnitude greater force from my arm, using a swinging motion, to strike a willing someone. What is the amount of power added vs the ratio of arm being added I wonder.

Consider then, if I now add my wrist, hand, and fingers, all with more pivot points. What proportional power would be added then? By my entire arm to be relatively limp and using my bicep to throw my arm, I am already generating significant power and concentrating it into my fingertips, if I can efficiently hit my willing subject at the moment of highest energy.

The exact models for the physics of what's going on evade me for now, but note here that if I were to continue to add length to my arm via the use of instruments such as a whip, I can generate enough energy and power solely from my arm to break the sound barrier, hence why whips can 'crack'.

It was this insight that made me think I'll probably never invest in any canes, whips or other such pain instruments again. The hand is a much better method of pain stimulation because not only does it restrict the forces at work to a safe level, but it allows me direct sensory feedback into what the sub will have experienced.

My Rules of Engagement

First and foremost; kink must be !!FUN!!. There is no other ultimate goal, no higher purpose; only the simple trickle of endorphins in the company of people who are friends. Every action, every word that takes place during play, must be for this purpose and this purpose alone. Anything done in order to get the better of the other person, anything to hinder their ability to have !!FUN!!, anything that causes their flow of endorphins to stop, is against the entire spirit of the venture and that person will be excluded from play. At least from me.

With that in mind, There are three identifiable routes to take in kink in order to achieve a flow of endorphins:

Pleasure via Pain
Counter intuitive only to those who have never experienced it; the flood of endorphins after enduring brief periods of pain is overwhelming and potent. Guiding a bottom into subspace is the ultimate goal of any true top. Pleasure gained by the top in inflicting pain (something I personally don't enjoy that much except for the bottom'a happiness) is secondary to the bottom's needs.

Pleasure via Pleasure
More easy to understand to the average person; fucking each other's brains out and bringing each other to orgasm. Possibly multiple times. Both partners are equally responsible for the other's pleasure; the sum of the two parts must be greater than the sum of each partner alone. In the same way that my first point is so overlooked by those not in the lifestyle, I found it surprising sometimes how overlooked this avenue was compared to the first.

"Other"
Here is where the true spectrum of kink lies. Whether it's from cleaning someone's house, from licking their boots, to being verbally abused or degraded, this is the category for it. Everyone is different and has their own personal tastes, and while everyone should oblige those who have them to the best of their ability, no-one should force their particular tastes on those who don't share them. Also under this category however, is the simple and divine pleasure derived from cuddling on the couch after a play session watching Firefly, or the delightful feeling of two bodies sleeping next to one another who have drunk too much wine. Not all time spent together need be role played.